why do i do this to myself?
no, not go on dates with guys 10 years my senior.
watch the finale of the bachelor. f*ck that travis dude.
i had to put my words to use, so here is the e-mail i sent to the one he didn't choose, the one with whom i clearly identified and thought seemed pretty awesome. god, even the fairy tale tv shows can't get it right. unless they really truly are looking for a girl next door -- not someone rare and special, but literally whatever girl happens to live next door. (sorry, a little vicarious bitterness, i'm sure it will subside by tomorrow.)
>hey moana,
i know you don't know me from adam, but i am completely shocked and flabbergasted by what i witnessed on tv tonight. sure that guy is attractive, tall, successful, charming, whatever. but he demonstrated tonight that he is incredibly manipulative and, in the end, shallow. i mean, do you really go half way across the world to meet someone you could run into at the grocery store, or do you take a chance, reach out of your safety zone, and go for something and someone truly unique and life-changing? as an interracial, smart, attractive woman, it just kills me to see this kind of thing. sure, there is a lot that must have happened behind the scenes that we didn't see, and they edit it to create a particular story, but even i feel manipulated. someone who truly deserves you would have honored your willingness to make yourself vulnerable and if he wasn't 100% into it should have respectfully sent you on your way instead of essentially tricking you right up to the end. (you looked absolutely gorgeous that final night, by the way.) i hope that the time between the taping and now has been healing for you -- i've known that feeling of heartbreak myself, being with someone who you are so certain is the one for you and it doesn't work out. i'm not far -- in san diego, so for a little humor related to dating, have a look at my blog (mysterydater.blogspot.com) and if you want to grab a drink sometime, it is on me.
hang in there, you seem to be an amazing person and i'm sure someone worthy will recognize that if he hasn't already.
-j
watch the finale of the bachelor. f*ck that travis dude.
i had to put my words to use, so here is the e-mail i sent to the one he didn't choose, the one with whom i clearly identified and thought seemed pretty awesome. god, even the fairy tale tv shows can't get it right. unless they really truly are looking for a girl next door -- not someone rare and special, but literally whatever girl happens to live next door. (sorry, a little vicarious bitterness, i'm sure it will subside by tomorrow.)
>hey moana,
i know you don't know me from adam, but i am completely shocked and flabbergasted by what i witnessed on tv tonight. sure that guy is attractive, tall, successful, charming, whatever. but he demonstrated tonight that he is incredibly manipulative and, in the end, shallow. i mean, do you really go half way across the world to meet someone you could run into at the grocery store, or do you take a chance, reach out of your safety zone, and go for something and someone truly unique and life-changing? as an interracial, smart, attractive woman, it just kills me to see this kind of thing. sure, there is a lot that must have happened behind the scenes that we didn't see, and they edit it to create a particular story, but even i feel manipulated. someone who truly deserves you would have honored your willingness to make yourself vulnerable and if he wasn't 100% into it should have respectfully sent you on your way instead of essentially tricking you right up to the end. (you looked absolutely gorgeous that final night, by the way.) i hope that the time between the taping and now has been healing for you -- i've known that feeling of heartbreak myself, being with someone who you are so certain is the one for you and it doesn't work out. i'm not far -- in san diego, so for a little humor related to dating, have a look at my blog (mysterydater.blogspot.com) and if you want to grab a drink sometime, it is on me.
hang in there, you seem to be an amazing person and i'm sure someone worthy will recognize that if he hasn't already.
-j
posted by j @ 11:39 PM
5 Comments:
At 4:19 PM,
Anonymous said…
I hate reality tv, and I hate that you let yourself get sucked into it. You are a you are a 3 degree black belt in higher education...
But I suppose smarts doesnt equal taste (or entertainment preferences). It is all staged.
all of it.
We live in the matrix
At 4:30 PM,
Anonymous said…
i know, i know, i should know better.
-md
At 10:06 PM,
A Room to Grow said…
i also liked moana, but travis seemed too straight edge to actually go for someone "cool". she wasn't a sure thing for him. i hope he is happy with the teacher - she was definitely the girl next store, less of a risk and maybe they'll do just fine settling down in nashville. i had more fun with the previous bachelor.
At 11:02 AM,
zombie squirrels said…
How'd you get her e-mail? That's why I don't watch reality TV - TV should be for escapism!! And like you said, that reality show probably isn't as real as the producers would lead you to believe...
At 3:41 PM,
j said…
myspace, of course! though i don't expect i'll hear back from her....
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