huh?

OK. So on Thursday I met a fellow I've been corresponding with...on myspace of all places...he found me, and was surprisingly cute and not creepy. (That's a first for me on that site -- I don't really see it as a dating venue as much as a way to keep up with a few distant friends, bands and comedians.) We talked for about an hour and a half, surprisingly comfortably, like we'd known each other for a while already. (Similar backgrounds culturally and educationally probably added to that sense of familiarity.) I found him attractive in person, though I wouldn't characterize it as sparks flying. But as far as first dates go, it was really quite enjoyable and left me definitely interested in getting to know this fellow more. Turned out he had to return a camera (he's a filmmaker on the side) to someone later the night we met, so he needed to go. We walked outside, he gave me a hug, said "this was fun, we should do it again sometime," asked where my car was, I reminded him I'd walked to the venue. He said, ok, well I'm this way, talk to you soon. Important note here: it was raining, i.e., I needed an umbrella raining. I said OK and walked away. Seemed odd and perhaps a sign of bad manners that he didn't offer to drop me off given that it was raining, but maybe that could be forgiven. Weirder though was the really good-feeling date and then the abrupt ending. Feeling confused, i sent a short e-mail the next day, his reply follows:


From: J
To: Z

was that a date?

either way, i enjoyed meeting you,

j
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From: Z
To: J


No, it was a date, though usually you've met and have some sense of the person's 'way' or personality beforehand. Not a blind date, not a typical one (partially-sighted date?).

Great to meet you, too. It's good to get out there and meet new people.

Z


Huh? I'm more than happy to chalk this up to "he's just not that into you," and maybe I should be relieved because the last thing I need is someone who might have not great manners. But I'm still confused. It was "great" to meet you, but the value lies in "getting out there and meeting new people?" Whatever, I'm willing to just let this one go, I guess it's just frustrating because I felt we really connected in our conversation and had some significant things in common that, given my experiences, can be a good thing over time. Who knows.

In other news, I got a call from "It's Just a Midday Meal." They had a new match for me, he sounded pretty great ("on paper" anyway), they found a time we were both free, picked a time and location, all set. The next day they call me back to say the date is cancelled, they are going to try to find someone else to set me up with, this guy has decided to put his membership on hold because he's found someone he's interested in. That's all well and good, and of course has nothing to do with me, but it's a little perplexing to me that he figured that out within 12 hours of setting up our date. Weird.

Someday my luck will change, I know it. But if I ever find the person whose past life sins I'm repenting for, we are going to have words.

; ) ~md